Show a better way to live
By Mike Haynes
Listening
to oldies radio in the car, Kathy and I saw “Love Child – 1968” pop up on the
dashboard display and heard the familiar voice of Diana Ross singing, “Love
child, never meant to be, love child, by society, love child, always second
best, love child, diff’rent from the rest.”
I told my
wife that song would be unacceptable today with its theme of a woman who was
born out of wedlock and doesn’t want to bring her own child into the world the
same way:
“No child
of mine’ll be bearing the name of shame I’ve been wearin’…”
Yes, with
40 percent of babies today born to unmarried mothers, it would be seen as
insensitive to imply that any woman should feel guilt or shame for having a
child without a marriage license.
But it’s
just one of the societal changes in recent decades that have many Christians
worried that our culture is sliding down in the proverbial handbasket. In the
wake of possibly the most jolting blow to traditional values, the U.S. Supreme
Court’s endorsement of same-sex marriage, two writers have suggested how
orthodox Christians should respond to the changes.
I use the word “orthodox” to indicate Christians who still hold an interpretation of the Bible that, midway through the 20 th century, most believers agreed upon: basic, traditional Christianity, the “Mere Christianity” that C.S. Lewis explained.
Michael
Gerson and Peter Wehner, both newspaper columnists, wrote a cover story for the
November “Christianity Today” magazine in which they admit that “By many
accounts, orthodox Christians have lost the culture wars.” They describe three
responses and endorse one they say can allow Christians to flourish “in a time
of retreat.”
One
reaction is the knee-jerk one we see on Facebook. Lots of committed Christians
are vocal about issues where social conservatives have lost ground over several
decades. Gerson and Wehner list several: divorce, abortion, cohabitation,
out-of-wedlock births, gender roles and same-sex marriage.
While they
don’t say Christians should retreat from the public square on every issue, they
don’t believe a militant response will be helpful in the long run. They
especially discourage too much emphasis on that recent court decision:
“Making gay
marriage the centerpiece of Christian opposition would be foolish because it
would overshadow all the other priorities of the church.” Instead, they urge a
focus on building up traditional marriage. In their eyes, most Americans still
support historical marriage, and allowing the small percentage of people
practicing gay marriage to set the agenda is a mistake.
The writers say Christians should
avoid being known primarily for defending their own institutions: “It would
mean constantly fighting defensive battles on terrain chosen by others.”
A second
option, promoted by author Rod Dreher, is for Christians to pretty much withdraw
and operate within their closed communities. Dreher calls it the Benedict
Option after Benedict of Nursia, who organized a monastic withdrawal from the
decadent society of Rome.
Gerson and
Wehner don’t think Christians should hide but become even more active – in a
positive way. They call it the Wilberforce Option after William Wilberforce,
the British activist who helped rid his country of the slave trade.
They define
their option as “the relentless defense of human dignity in the course of human
events.” They point out that for 2,000 years, Christians have lived in
societies that didn’t reflect their values but that they nevertheless have had
great influence. Paul didn’t write his first-century letters to try to
influence political leaders but to advise church members on how to cope with
day-to-day challenges in light of Christ’s teachings.
The Jews,
Gerson and Wehner observe, always have been examples of how to be devoted to
their beliefs but not expect everyone around them to share their values.
Christians
shouldn’t always give in, the writers say, but should pick their battles. Of
course, they declare, “religious liberty is vital.” But they believe Christians
who oppose gay marriage might be more effective for God’s kingdom working on a
food bank project with a same-sex couple than they would protesting that couple’s
relationship.
The
Wilberforce Option involves working with other Christians in areas of common
ground.
Historically,
Christianity has attracted seekers because of its compassion and love. Jesus said
in Matthew 22, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your
soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And
the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.”
Gerson and
Wehner put it like this:
“Rather
than lecturing the world, we need to show a different and better way to live in
the world.”